Memes About Childhood/Parenting


PDA parent to a PDA kid

No violent meltdowns

Meet Milly Cat

Understand PDA kids by listening to PDA adults

Not tidying my room

Naughty child

Positive PDA descriptions

Treated as if I had a different neurotype

Night-terrified

Social nuance blindness
Toll of self-alienation

Not bonding with parents

Fantasy and daydreaming

Holiday help

Holiday help 2
Lies
Fallout of meldown-blaming
Fallout of non-positive parenting










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