Sally Cat PDA

This blog post is co-authored with Brook Madera, also known as No Pressure PDA , and was originally published on PDA North America's website [ LINK ] Regardless of age, interpersonal stress is a hallmark of PDA. It can be possible to smooth relationships by reducing triggers or, in other cases, realising that a behaviour isn't going to go away and taking steps to limit damage from it. As authors who are PDA ourselves and the moms of PDA kids, we know first-hand that one size doesn't fit all with PDA and that it helps to know what the drivers are behind relationship friction. Care warning: Discussion of narcissism. Emotional dysregulation According to Web MD, emotional dysregulation is: “a term used to describe an emotional response that is poorly regulated and does not fall within the traditionally accepted range of emotional reaction. It may also be referred to as marked fluctuation of mood, mood swings, or labile mood.” [LINK] PDA people are so prone to emotional dysregul...

Introduction Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) research has solely focused on its external manifestations, neglecting those of us who internalise our stresses. Internalised PDA tends to go unnoticed. Our meltdowns are concealed and our demand avoidance is carried out subtly, so that we slip under the radar. However, it’s crucial to recognise that internalised PDA isn’t “less” than externalised PDA; like an iceberg, much of our experience is hidden beneath the surface. The Hidden Struggles of Internalisers The driving forces behind internalised PDA are as intense as those experienced by externalisers. This often leads to severe consequences, such as self-harm, school or work dropout, and even suicidal thoughts. It’s essential to spotlight the internalised aspects of PDA, as our ability to mask and conceal our traits results in a lack of understanding from those around us. A Guided Tour Through Internalised PDA This article invites you to explore the lesser-known aspects of PDA, partic...